When I first met him, he was a charming man, all smiles and even though we could not speak the same language, there was a connection. We drank and laughed till the day became night. I told his son that I had fallen in love with his father and that he was amazing. Little did I know that later in our life together, he would be the source of much pain and anguish. His suspicion and perceptions would be the thing that sparked his mouth off to discuss his outspoken thoughts and judgements with people that we knew. Apparently I wanted something from his precious son. That his son was making yet another one of his mistakes in life. These people that his father would engage with would listen patiently, slightly embarrassed and he would enjoy the shock and discomfort he would trigger in the atmosphere around him. Stating loudly that he was outspoken and when he said something, he spared no one. He, however, could not be on the receiving end of straight forwardness because he was almost as knowing as God himself. He knew it all and the things that he had gone through in his life, no one would would understand or had ever undergone themselves.
Now, almost 15 years later, he is in my house and he is annoyed with me because finally, we clashed and I gave him a piece of my mind. Told him off for speaking to me in the way that he did and stated clearly that I thought it was in bad taste and that I did not like it. I took it personally when he stated that I was not thinking of his son who was tired from the lack of sleep the night before. All I wanted was to walk to the pharmacy and get some painkillers for my girl who was menstruating and wouldn’t be able to sleep because she was in pain. I also wanted to go and get a couple of bottles of wine and cook the favourite Mexican dish they liked so much. After all, we were away all together and we were having a lovely lunch, laughing and talking. The thing that irritated me the most was that he used that as an excuse but the truth is, he was the one who wanted to go home as he had eaten and had a drink and wasn’t much for walking but was using his son’s tiredness as an excuse. He was teasing me constantly because he had fallen over earlier trying to cross a small fence and of course, was showing off. He didn’t hurt himself so in hindsight, it was funny and his wife was laughing till she cried as we teased each other. He of course said that I had planned the whole thing. It had nothing to do with his bravado or ego. Never.
Tomorrow he leaves along with my darling girl and my mother in law. I will be going to work early and there is no way in hell that I will make it easy on him by allowing a goodbye seeing as he completely ignored me for the whole day after confronting him and in my own home. Forget that. This is the choice he made even though I was honest and maybe not entirely right for taking it all to my head the night before and walking off but it was that or throttling him from across the table with my bare hands. Everyone has a threshold and Zeus knows, that this man has pushed me beyond mine. I am amazed that it has taken this long for me to snap with all his condescending crap. He isn’t a very wise man even with all that experience, age and mistakes he has made to learn from.